Stepdad's Thoughts

My thought and feelings.

My Wife

I love my wife. She some how manages to put up with all the kidding, picking as she calls it, I do. She has a smile that simply lights up the room. She can is always willing to let the waterworks fly when something touching or sad is on TV.

Simply put she is TOPS. I love her!


October 28, 2010 Posted by | General | | Leave a comment

The Star Spangled Banner

The Star Spangled Banner Lyrics
By Francis Scott Key 1814

Oh, say can you see by the dawn’s early light
What so proudly we hailed at the twilight’s last gleaming?
Whose broad stripes and bright stars thru the perilous fight,
O’er the ramparts we watched were so gallantly streaming?
And the rocket’s red glare, the bombs bursting in air,
Gave proof through the night that our flag was still there.
Oh, say does that star-spangled banner yet wave
O’er the land of the free and the home of the brave?

On the shore, dimly seen through the mists of the deep,
Where the foe’s haughty host in dread silence reposes,
What is that which the breeze, o’er the towering steep,
As it fitfully blows, half conceals, half discloses?
Now it catches the gleam of the morning’s first beam,
In full glory reflected now shines in the stream:
‘Tis the star-spangled banner! Oh long may it wave
O’er the land of the free and the home of the brave!

And where is that band who so vauntingly swore
That the havoc of war and the battle’s confusion,
A home and a country should leave us no more!
Their blood has washed out their foul footsteps’ pollution.
No refuge could save the hireling and slave
From the terror of flight, or the gloom of the grave:
And the star-spangled banner in triumph doth wave
O’er the land of the free and the home of the brave!

Oh! thus be it ever, when freemen shall stand
Between their loved home and the war’s desolation!
Blest with victory and peace, may the heav’n rescued land
Praise the Power that hath made and preserved us a nation.
Then conquer we must, when our cause it is just,
And this be our motto: “In God is our trust.”
And the star-spangled banner in triumph shall wave
O’er the land of the free and the home of the brave!

October 26, 2010 Posted by | General | , , , , | Leave a comment

Martial Arts & Football

A couple of days a go my wife had trouble getting my step son to get his shower done. He did what ever he could not to take teh shower… Once he did it was 10pm… He came down to turn the wifi router on which I had turned off because on of the things he was doing was watching videos via his iPod. I took that moment to tell him if he continued to NOT follow his mother directions I would disable wifi access to his iPod and XBox and make sure his Dad and grandparents knew exactly how disrespectful her has been toward his mother.

After he went to his room his mother went upstairs to check on him and tell him goodnight; she found him on his bed quite upset… He didn’t seem to understand why I had become upset with him, she tried to explain that his actions or inaction were the cause. She also found out that he was having trouble with some of the nick-names the kids and coaches at school had tagged him with. Some were OK while others bothered him. he and had a talk about the nick-names some time back and I tried to make him understand for starters they were just word and secondly if he were to joke about them also that they would stop the use of them. But if he continued to let the kids know the names bothered him that they would continue which is what I think happened.

Yesterday my wife told him of our conversation that I thought the martial arts could help him turn the one nick-name about him being slow completely around. During dinner he brought it up and I explained to him that the martial arts, Tae Kwon Do and Hap Ki Do, have explosive techniques. During training you learn to be quicker off the mark and faster. I continued to tell him that at 13 his body would soon start to mature and strengthen and that proper training during that time could help him to improve substantially. I did let him know that it is not a miracle fix, that it would 6 months to a year in order to see real strong results. He said he was interested, so he went with to watch my Hap Ki do work out last night.

Our workout was a moderate to hard workout for the first half, we worked on cardio and strength, the second half was technique, this really got his attention. I was working with a higher belt who was learning knife defense techniques. I was working on punching defense and counter techniques, this also intrigued him. After class we had casual conversation with my instructor who told him about some funny incidents with former students. On our drive home he told me him wanted to join the class. I want him to watch a few more classes and take part in one before he jumps off into it, to be very sure this is what he wants and will stick with it.

On the other side it should help instill a more respectful attitude toward others, especially his mother and father, may be even toward me. The instructors at my school are all Korean and believe very strongly in showing respect toward others and can actually get on the proverbial soapbox at times when talking to the kids about show their parents respect.

We’ll see how the next few days go and hopefully get him in Hap Ki Do.

October 22, 2010 Posted by | Concerns, Hap Ki Do, Kids, Parenting | , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

No Youth Only Weekend this year

This year I will not be taking my stepson for the Youth Only weekend of deer season. The reason for this is my grandparents, my Dad’s parents, are coming to town that weekend. It’s be almost a year since we have seen each other so the decision has been made to not go hunting. We will be going out to dinner since that weekend also has my Dad and Grandfather’s birthday. My Dad will be 68 and my Grandfather will be 95, we plan to have Crawfish etouffee per my Grandfathers request.

I’ll take my stepson hunting during regular season.

October 20, 2010 Posted by | General, Kids, Parenting | , , , , | Leave a comment


I’ve been stewing over this one the last couple of days. Monday my stepson’s dad picked him up from school after football practice as is usual. On their ride to our house, my wife and I were not home from work yet, he tells his dad he was hit hard during practice and the coach wants him to get checked out for a possible concussion. His dad has something else he has to do and does not take him straight to the doctor… Am I nuts or should you take you child to the doctor for something like this? What is more important than your child’s well being? About 2 hours later my wife gets home, I get home 30 minutes after her, she tells me what has transpired. She takes him to the Urgent care facility near us and they check him out. Come to find out he might very well have a mild concussion. He is going for a full scan today, performed by his regular doctor, to make sure he is OK. Fortunately his only complaints are a few aches and a head ache; not the nausea, etc… that comes along with a back concussion.

October 20, 2010 Posted by | Concerns, Kids, Parenting | , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

2010 Deer Season

I am on two deer leases this year, one I share with a friend, the other is a family lease we’ve had since 1978. I left the family lease nearly 10 years ago when my grandfather stopped hunting due to his inability to move around safely. This year I am back on the lease; The lease was originally formed by my grandfather and his two brothers and kids and grand-kids. I have only one uncle left, he is 80+. I wanted to get back with my family and also make sure the lease was able to stay in the family.

Oddly enough I feel out of place on the lease; not being there for so long has allowed the areas I used to hunt fall into others hands. Silly as it sounds I am even worried about what bunk I will get. I want my grandfathers old bunk simply because it was his and I will feel closer to him by having it. One major upside is the area I have placed my blind is real close to the area my grandfather had his, down on a creek. Again just another way to feel like he is with me.

I hope I can get the feeling I really belong on the lease again and make an area that is really mine again. We have 360 acres to hunt with 7 – 8 people hunting. One cousin is ecstatic I am back, he and I always hunted together, we did more in the area we shared than anyone else. We both liked to get out of the stand and still hunt several time we got deer near each others stand.

October 19, 2010 Posted by | General | , , | Leave a comment

Look in my eyes

My stepson was a REAL ass last night to his mother. She went up stairs to make sure he was headed to bed; she found him sitting in the floor with the radio blaring, the TV on, lights on in three rooms. She told him it was time to go to bed and that he did not need to have everything on and loud. He looked at her and said, “look at these eyes, does it look like I care”. I was down stairs and heard this so I went up stairs, since he did not say it to me I was not going to get on him. I did say it was amazing how his poor attitude and disrespect can make everyone miserable in the house. I later told my wife that if he was my flesh and blood I would have put a good whipping to him, taken any number of his electronics away… ANYTHING to make it quite clear that was not acceptable. She was too tired, too beat down I think, to try to fight it. She said she would address it the next day, that’s today. I am of the opinion that things require immediate action for the punishment to really mean anything.

I had trouble falling a sleep last night because I was so pissed off over the shitty actions of the boy. He’s 13, you would think he would have a bit more sense.

He’s not my son, flesh and blood, so I am not going to take him the proverbial wood shed where he needs to go to get a KING SIZE whipping. I will how ever keep my distance and NOT take him hunting with me… Over reaction on my part? Maybe. But I tired of the crap, it makes life around the house tough.

If you want to act like an ass then I will treat you like one.

October 15, 2010 Posted by | Concerns, Kids, Parenting | , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

HKD – Tonight’s the night

I test for my High Blue belt tonight. I am confident I will acquire it and will begin work toward Brown. Still to go are High Blue(2), Brown(2), Red(4), Deputy I(6), Deputy II(6)… That adds up to 18 months to until I reach Black Belt.

In some ways the techniques are becoming easier and harder all at the same time. I think this is happening because I am understanding more of how the movements flow. I am used to very direct lines of movement but HKD uses more fluid circular movements.


October 8, 2010 Posted by | Hap Ki Do | , , , | Leave a comment


Anyone tired of working? I really wish I was able to quit working and retire to a life of leisure; but until the kids are out of college and the saving accounts are UP I’ll continue to work.

My dream is a modest place, 3 bedrooms, 3+ car garage, living room, kitchen, etc… with a LARGE wrap around porch, on 500 acres. Yep, 500 acres of wooded land made up of hardwoods, pines, some pasture and a lake of 10 acres fed by both a creek/river and a spring.

I actually have seen places like this, or close to it, but all cost SO much it is ridiculous. Not long a go I found 200 acres that shared a long fence line with a national forest… Cost was $1,000,000 and there was no house but it did have a 5 acre lake.

It’s not that I don’t enjoy what I do for a living but I would like to get out a live vs. working. I need to recharge my batteries, get a new perspective on life in general and do some of the things I enjoy instead of doing the things I must do. Right now my escape comes in November.

November 5 I leave the house for 10 days of hunting. No TV, no phone, no etc… just hunting and relaxing in the outdoors.

Back to work…

October 6, 2010 Posted by | General | , , | Leave a comment


Lately I have simply been tired. Not sure if it is lack of sleep or just not restful sleep.

Today my body just does not want to go. My back has a slight discomfort which makes it tough to sit long while working. I have Hap Ki Do tonight, I hope the exercise will re-vitalize me. It really is irritating to feel this way, I wander if the problem is diet?

I still have the neck pain from some 4 weeks ago when I was at my deer lease. It is much better but i still have the stiffness in my left shoulder and neck. Friday I test for my next belt in Hap Ki do so I better get my act together.

September 30 was the one year mark for Hap Ki Do; I have another 18+ months to reach black belt.

October 5, 2010 Posted by | General | , , , , | Leave a comment