Stepdad's Thoughts

My thought and feelings.

It never changes

Yesterday my stepson had homework to complete for school today. He was up by 1030, had breakfast, etc… I told him to leave the TV off and get the work done as his mother told him. As the day went on I realized he had the TV on… Not wanting to make things blow up I ask him if he remembered me telling him to leave the TV off… he did. I asked why it was on but got no answer… I was getting mad now but I kept my cool. I told my wife that there is no way I am going to have any say with her kids when it comes to following the rules/doing what they are told to do. it’s been a while since I have let the crap get to me and I was much better off when I just let it go. I am really tired of it.Hell he was up until 1am doing homework he could have completed much sooner.

Same damn story every day it seems… I really need to learn how to mind my own business and do what I like to do and to hell with everyone else. Oh well it’s not worth going on about… just needed to blow off some steam… no one really gives a s*** if I have an opinion.

February 14, 2011 Posted by | General | , , , , | Leave a comment

Hapkido – Red Belt (UPDATE)

I passed the test to receive my Red Belt in Hapkido Friday night. I am one step closer to reaching Black Belt. I can now expect more focus on technique and pressure points along with a slow advancement cycle, about 4 months. After this I reach Deputy I then Deputy II then Black Belt… I guessing this time next year I will have my Black Belt.

February 14, 2011 Posted by | General | , , | Leave a comment

Old feelings

I’m not sure I have done the right thing by being tough on rules with my step-kids. I say that because I really didn’t/don’t get 100% agreement with my wife, their mother. We’ve been married for almost 6 years and we still seem to see things differently. Kids and rules, discipline, chores, etc… are things we did not discuss before getting married, and looking back we really should have. I am hard lined while my wife is more lenient.

I simply expect the rules to be followed, I can see forgetting or simply ignoring sometimes but when it becomes a regular thing I have a real problem. The typical answer in the afternoon, “I was tired” just doesn’t fly with me when their mother has told them to put the dishes up when they get home then do homework… three hours later neither is done. Then there is the pretty regular lying about things, primarily homework or the lack of or it’s all done, really bothers me. It bothers me to the point I don’t want to be there at times. We went through this with my stepdaughter now with my stepson, my step daughter is away at college now.

Respect; neither of the kids seem to be able to respect their mother. She tells them to do things and they just do their own thing; I see this as disrespect toward their mother. I don’t have respect from them and I have given up even worrying about ever getting it. I do get very angry at the lack of respect given to their mother and many times have made situations worse.

At 18 and 14 years old I would have thought they might show more regular obedience and respect toward their mother than they do.

Maybe the whole problem is me and this is kids just being kids. I simply don’t know. I know I was not like this toward my parents; I never had kids so I could be so far of base it is unreal. All I know is it all bothers me. I started writing to help me release the pent up feelings but lately I’ve been afraid to write for lack of the words to put down how I feel. I’m still not sure I have put down the right words now; I just felt like putting something down.

I guess I’ll continue playing with our dog and working at learning Hapkido, at least I have an idea of where I stand there.

February 8, 2011 Posted by | Concerns, Kids, Parenting | , , , , , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Hapkido – Red Belt

Friday I test for my Red Belt. Once I get it I will be a little over a year away from testing for Black Belt. From what I have heard about the black Belt test I am going to need to really get a strong cardio workout going outside of the Hapkido workout.

I feel confident I will get the Red Belt and I’m looking forward to learning new techniques. I feel I know much of the defense techniques since I have been the attack dummy for the previous Red Belts, it’s knife defense.

February 8, 2011 Posted by | General | , , | Leave a comment