Stepdad's Thoughts

My thought and feelings.

Old feelings

I’m not sure I have done the right thing by being tough on rules with my step-kids. I say that because I really didn’t/don’t get 100% agreement with my wife, their mother. We’ve been married for almost 6 years and we still seem to see things differently. Kids and rules, discipline, chores, etc… are things we did not discuss before getting married, and looking back we really should have. I am hard lined while my wife is more lenient.

I simply expect the rules to be followed, I can see forgetting or simply ignoring sometimes but when it becomes a regular thing I have a real problem. The typical answer in the afternoon, “I was tired” just doesn’t fly with me when their mother has told them to put the dishes up when they get home then do homework… three hours later neither is done. Then there is the pretty regular lying about things, primarily homework or the lack of or it’s all done, really bothers me. It bothers me to the point I don’t want to be there at times. We went through this with my stepdaughter now with my stepson, my step daughter is away at college now.

Respect; neither of the kids seem to be able to respect their mother. She tells them to do things and they just do their own thing; I see this as disrespect toward their mother. I don’t have respect from them and I have given up even worrying about ever getting it. I do get very angry at the lack of respect given to their mother and many times have made situations worse.

At 18 and 14 years old I would have thought they might show more regular obedience and respect toward their mother than they do.

Maybe the whole problem is me and this is kids just being kids. I simply don’t know. I know I was not like this toward my parents; I never had kids so I could be so far of base it is unreal. All I know is it all bothers me. I started writing to help me release the pent up feelings but lately I’ve been afraid to write for lack of the words to put down how I feel. I’m still not sure I have put down the right words now; I just felt like putting something down.

I guess I’ll continue playing with our dog and working at learning Hapkido, at least I have an idea of where I stand there.


February 8, 2011 Posted by | Concerns, Kids, Parenting | , , , , , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Hapkido – Red Belt

Friday I test for my Red Belt. Once I get it I will be a little over a year away from testing for Black Belt. From what I have heard about the black Belt test I am going to need to really get a strong cardio workout going outside of the Hapkido workout.

I feel confident I will get the Red Belt and I’m looking forward to learning new techniques. I feel I know much of the defense techniques since I have been the attack dummy for the previous Red Belts, it’s knife defense.

February 8, 2011 Posted by | General | , , | Leave a comment

Tidbits and thoughts

I did a little digging into the Texas State flag yesterday; I was surprised when I found out the flag we know of today was not the original. The first flag was a single star on a blue background. I also found out that that Texas did not have an official state flag from 1871 to 1933; 1933 is when we came to have close to what we have now. I say close because the dimensions and colors were not defined, these small issue were not corrected until 1993… I am writing this from memory so some of my dates may be off, I need to check them. Tidbits of history are really neat to know.

The State Flag of Texas

Here are the flags:

First flag of the Republic of Texas






Second flag of the Republic of Texas











Third flag of the Republic of Texas


January 21, 2011 Posted by | General | , , , | Leave a comment

Cowboy Poetry

My wife sent this to me via email:

Jake, the rancher, went one day

To fix a distant fence.

The wind was cold and gusty

And the clouds rolled gray and dense.

As he pounded the last staples in

And gathered tools to go,

The temperature had fallen,

And snow began to blow.

When he finally reached his pickup,

He felt a heavy heart.

From the sound of that ignition

He knew it wouldn’t start.

So Jake did what most of us

Would do if we were there.

He humbly bowed his balding head

And sent aloft a prayer.

As he turned the key the last time,

He softly cursed his luck

They found him three days later,

Frozen stiff in that old truck.

Now Jake had been around in life

And done his share of roaming.

But when he saw Heaven, he was shocked — It looked just like Wyoming !

Of all the saints in Heaven,

His favorite was St. Peter.

So they sat and talked a minute or two,

Or maybe it was three.

Nobody was keeping’ score —

In Heaven, time is free.

‘I’ve always heard,’ Jake said to Pete,

‘that God will answer prayers,

But the one time I asked for help,

Well, he just wasn’t there.’

‘Does God answer prayers of some,

And ignore the prayers of others?

That don’t seem exactly square —

I know all men are brothers.’

‘Or does he randomly reply,

Without good rhyme or reason?

Maybe, it’s the time of day,

The weather or the season.’

‘Now I ain’t trying to act smart,

It’s just the way I feel.

And I was wondering’, could you tell me

What the heck’s the deal?!’

Peter listened very patiently

And when Jake was done,

There were smiles of recognition,

And he said, ‘So, you’re the one!!’

That day your truck, it wouldn’t start,

And you sent your prayer a flying,

You gave us all a real bad time,

With hundreds of us trying.’

‘A thousand angels rushed,

To check the status of your file,

But you know, Jake , we hadn’t heard

From you in quite a while.’

‘And though all prayers are answered,

And God ain’t got no quota,

He didn’t recognize your voice,

And started a truck in Minnesota ‘

January 18, 2011 Posted by | General | , , , , | Leave a comment

Interesting sayings on window stickers

During lunch I was looking for a new “Terrorist Hunting Permit” sticker; having found it I looked around the web site and found some other interesting verbiage.

Patriotism is Supporting Your Country All the Time and Your Government When It Deserves It

If you can read this thank a teacher, if you can read this in English, thank a vet.

When it absolutely, positively has to be destroyed overnight. United States Marine Corps

All gave some, some gave all. (POW MIA You are not forgotten)

Semper Fi

Except for ending Slavery, Fascism, Nazism & Communism, War has never solved anything.

“Two of the gravest general dangers to survival are a desire for comfort and a passive outlook.”

To err is human, To forgive is divine; Neither is Marine Corps policy

Join the Army. Risk your life, Defend the Constitution, then come home and have the liberals treat you like shit.

If You Love Your Freedom Thank A Veteran

January 14, 2011 Posted by | General, Politics | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Paintball – Birthday UPDATE

Saturday was the day; we had 11 boys and two adults playing paintball for my stepson’s birthday. The two adults were me and my Dad. We got off to a slow start due to gun malfunctions but ended up having two hours to playing time that was just the 13 of us. If you’ve ever played paintball in a big group of strangers try playing with a small group of friends, it is MUCH better. After the private playing time the boys played another 2.5 hours in the main group, all had fun.

After the paintball the boys came back to our house for football then had burgers and fries for dinner… Oh yeah we fed them pizza during paintball.

All in all it was a long day for the adults and fun day for the kids… 10am to 10pm of close to non-stop activity wore us all out.

December 20, 2010 Posted by | General | , , , | Leave a comment

Christmas Shopping

Why is it that I am waiting to the last few days, OK 10 days, to get my wife a Christmas present? I have in my head what I want to get her I just need to get off my but and get into the stores to get it. Yeah I could shop online but that just doesn’t seem right, it’s not the way it used to be done. It’s just not personal to me. I am going to get off work a little early and get what I have in mind for her…

I have my Dad’s gift and some for my stepson… What to get my Mom, sister and niece is a mystery right now.

December 16, 2010 Posted by | General | , , , , | Leave a comment


Last night was my first Hapkido class as a Brown belt. The drills, kicking and punching, all went just fine. I even learned the new kicking combinations needed to advance, I just need to practice them to make them better. What I did find out that I need MORE work on is strength. I thought I was doing pretty good on upper body but after the 100+ push ups I realized I need to do more regular work on strength; the 100+ crunches reminded me I should do them more also. I will work on hitting the exercise routine more regularly that I had written do some time back. Repetition and consistency will be the keys to getting better.

December 15, 2010 Posted by | General | , , | Leave a comment

Paintball – Birthday

Saturday we are planning a paintball birthday party for my stepson; he will be 14. Originally I was hoping for 10+ people so we could have 2 hours of private play time. Unfortunately he took too long in getting the names we asked for so we are look at maybe 6 counting me. I really wish he had jumped on things, 2 hours of private play would have been a lot of fun.

I am hoping his Dad will join us also but it is not looking good.

He also wanted to feed his guest deer burgers and homemade fries… I am not sure if that will happen; time will tell…

He has his own PB gun and I am thinking about getting me a cheap one vs. taking a chance on the rental gun. I have an old PB gun that needs a lot of work, rings, valve, etc…

Tippmann Carver One or Spyder MR1 Sniper both cost around $100.

Either way I think this will be a good birthday for him, this is something he has wanted to do for a while but weather has stopped it each time. We have a good forecast this weekend so we are in.

December 14, 2010 Posted by | General, Parenting | , , , , | Leave a comment


Yesterday on the my drive I home I spoke to my Dad on the phone. We had our usual conversation; one that hits more topics then either of us can remember or anyone else can keep up with. We managed to get on the topic of martial arts since I am in Hapkido and I test tonight. Any way we got on the topic of Bruce Lee. We talked about the movies he made, movies that my Dad and I saw at the theater when they first showed. We then started talking about his training methods and his philosophy. Both of us agreeing that Bruce Lee was of the mindset that you should use any method that works… I think he actually used that line in one of his movies.

We started talking about his TV appearances/shows… All could remember was The Green Hornet and Batman…My Dad said there was another show but neither of us knew the name; my Dad was able to tell me all about the show but not a title… told me about the blind guy that Bruce was teaching to fight etc… I found the show a few minutes ago, it was Longstreet.

I found this about the show, actually it’s from a site that sell the series in a DVD set:

Longstreet is an American crime drama series that was broadcast on the ABC in the 1971-1972 season (see 1971 in television). A 90-minute pilot movie of the same name.

The series starred James Franciscus as insurance investigator Mike Longstreet. After a bomb (hidden in a champagne bottle) kills his wife, Ingrid, and leaves him blind, the title character pursues and captures the killers. He then continues his career as an insurance investigator despite his blindness. Longstreet’s seeing eye dog was a white German Shepherd called Pax. The series was set in New Orleans, but was actually filmed in Los Angeles.

Mystery novelist Baynard Kendrick was credited in each episode as the creator of the source material for the series, although his character, Captain Duncan Maclain, had little in common with Longstreet aside from their both being blind private detectives.

Bruce Lee appeared in four episodes as Li Tsung, an antique dealer and Jeet Kune Do expert who becomes Longstreet’s martial arts instructor. Wikiquote has quotations from Li Tsung’s teachings.

Twenty-three episodes of the show were aired before it was canceled in 1973.

December 10, 2010 Posted by | General, Hap Ki Do, Random | , , | Leave a comment